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May 09, 2012

Sastisfying a Woman Sexually Can Only Be Taught By Women

by Linda Franklin

Sastisfying a Woman Sexually Can Only Be Taught Women Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanSatisfying a woman sexually isn’t rocket science, but men just keep doing the same-old, same-old without trying to educate themselves on what woman want.  That male-ego subborness results in anger, confustion and frustration for both the man and the woman.

Men have to learn to ask for specific directions from someone who knows how to get where they want to go. Typically they are getting their sex tips from porn and men’s magazines.  So, let’s face it – the average man is  CLUELESS on how to satisfy a woman.

The only way to learn how to please a woman sexually is information from other women.

Men really don’t have any idea what they’re missing, one man admits.  He says, “a completely satisfied woman is the most beautiful sight I’ve ever seen.”  He’s right!  When the lady is happy the world is a happier place for everyone.

I am not a sexologist but if you want to learn everything you can about female sexuality, I suggest you check out this site.  Betty Dodson, author, and PhD sexologist has been one of the principal voices for women’s sexual pleasure and health for over three decades.  Both Betty and her partner Carlin Ross believe the following:

* Masturbation is the foundation for all human sexual activity.

* Sexual repression begins with the prohibition of childhood masturbation.

* Every individual is entitled to contraception. Intentional motherhood is essential for the health and well being of women, children, men and the planet.

* Comprehensive sex education that includes information on how to achieve sexual pleasure in a variety of sex styles and relationships.

* Feedom to choose from a range of different lifestyles such as remaining single, couples living together casually, monogamous or open marriages and all variations of communal living based upon personal choice.

* Eliminating myths surrounding human sexuality from virginity to monogamous marriage.

* The concept of beauty is arbitrary and controlled by corporations that prey on women’s lack of self-esteem.

* Sexual pleasure and orgasm is the source of life and creativity. As we awaken our bodies through the senses, we awaken our minds to the knowledge that we are all related and connected to every living thing on planet Earth and throughout the vast universe.

Both men and women will learn volumes about women’s sexuality by reseraching their site.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

May 04, 2012

Female Orgasm Still A Mystery

Female Orgasm Still Quite A Mystery Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Womanby Linda Franklin 

Female orgams are confusing and all the reserach being done to understand them isn’t making it more clear, at least to me. I don’t know why but the female orgasm has always been a bit of a mystery. For starters, no one seems to know exactly why women have them  — or don’t, as the case may be.
 

We as women are supposedly the more sensitive sex.  We differ from the male ‘players’ and are, supposed to be more likely to achieve orgasm with someone we know and trust.  But is that really true? 

Recently I wrote a blog about women having orgasms while they were working out in the gym. These orgasms were quite unexpected and not the result of sexual thoughts or physical stimulation. The exercises which hit the spot centred around the core abdominal muscles — produced this phenomenon and given the name ‘coregasm’.

The female orgasm is as diverse as it is fascinating, and we’re still a long way from understanding it.  But, I do believe that women are able to experience a feeling of sexual arousal every bit as easily and intensely as men can. 

For too long, our views on the female orgasm have been mired in misconceptions based on old-fashioned ideas of how women should behave. Science just doesn’t bear most of it out.

The truth is, very little research has ever been done into women’s sexuality. And what research was done, for example by Masters and Johnson in the Fifties — the ‘pioneers’ who recorded some of the first laboratory data on the anatomy and physiology of human sexual response — was very heavily influenced by the culture of the time, which assumed that women didn’t really enjoy sex.

They were right in a way. Many women didn’t. But how much of this was because both sexes were so ignorant about the mechanics of the female body?

‘The biggest factor regarding whether an older woman was enjoying an active sex life was whether or not she had a new partner’.

A generation ago, most people hadn’t even heard of female erogenous zones and, if they had, they certainly didn’t talk about them. In fact, to this day, there’s still debate over whether the G-spot even exists, let alone what its actual role is during orgasm. 

So thank heavens scientists are finally exploring the issue of what happens to a woman’s body during sex coolly and objectively. Some of the findings have been pretty explosive.

Australian psychiatrist Prof Lorraine Dennerstein recently embarked on a large-scale study of the sexual responses and habits of menopausal women, which will revisit them over many years.

Many hoped that Dennerstein and her colleagues would find some kind of smoking gun — something lacking in older women that could be linked to a decrease in sexual desire as women aged.

Instead, she found something more curious. The biggest factor regarding whether an older woman was enjoying an active sex life? Not her weight, her health, or even her hormonal status. It was whether or not she had a new partner.

That’s right — women enjoyed more orgasms if they were having sex with a new man. 

Other studies have shown, that some women can climax purely by having less obvious parts of their body stimulated, such as their breasts. There is also scientific backing for the idea that for females, sexual satisfaction is ‘literally all in the mind’.

Emerita Professor Beverly Whipple at Rutgers University, in the U.S. — who pioneered the discovery of the G-spot in 1982 — found in 2004 how some women with spinal injuries can have orgasms simply by thinking themselves into the mood.

In short, the biggest sexual organ could well be the brain.

The implication is that women’s brains behave differently when experiencing pleasure according to whether they are alone or with a partner. It also suggests that a woman’s solo orgasm may be different to one she experiences with another person.

Perhaps the most important message is that when it comes to discovering how our bodies work, we are at the start of a long and fascinating journey.

A workout at the gym? A series of sexy thoughts? A loving evening under the marital duvet with a long-term partner, or a passionate clash with a new boyfriend? They all have their ways of leaving us satisfied.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

April 20, 2012

Woman’s Erotic Fantasies – A Runaway Best Seller

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Woman's Erotic Fantasies - A Runaway Best Seller by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Womanby Linda Franklin

Who knew that the woman who just wrote this year’s most popular erotic novel to be the shy type and yet writer E.L. James is modesty to the core.

Despite the explicit content of her bestselling book, Fifty Shades of Grey, the author is still reeling at the unprecedented success and still doubles up in embarrassed laughter talking about it.

During an interview in Paris, the cheerful but self-deprecating British author admitted that she finds it ‘excruciating’ to discuss the fine points of the novel and called the work her own personal ‘mid-life crisis.’ 

Talking to TODAY, the former television producer and suburban mother who wrote the Fifty Shades trilogy in two years, said she had no idea why it had sparked such a phenomenon as, as far as she can see, there is nothing revolutionary about it. 
 
Asked whether she knew it would be such a hit, Ms James laughed: ‘No, not at all. I was amazed. I am stunned by its popularity.’ But she admitted the process was all-consuming as over the course of two years she did nothing but write, composing notes on her phone when she was out and ‘beaming’ them onto her Mac when she got home.

Joking about her unorthodox work method she smiled cheekily when asked if wine helped the flow of raunchy ideas, and said: ‘I always need a couple of glasses of wine’.

The lurid tale of sexual submission has been a sensation among women everywhere. While women have admitted to squirming in their seat on reading the lurid tale of Anastasia Steele and her sadomasochistic millionaire boyfriend Christian Grey, Ms James is not so forthcoming with her feelings on the subject matter.

Though she does admit the book is her ‘midlife crisis in Technicolor. All my fantasies are out there. When it came to talking about real life however, the author opened up about what she feels women really want.

‘I think in real life you want someone very, very different. You want someone who does the dishes,’ she said before adding that the reason her hero is rich and domineering is because ‘that’s really attractive on paper.’

The book that sold a staggering two million copies in one month realizes the secret fantasy of the submissive sexual encounter, a longing that many women may indeed harbor.

Ms James agreed: ‘Once you’re in charge of your job, your house, your children, getting food on the table, doing all of this all of the time, it would be nice for someone else to just be in charge for a little while.

Now Lifetime is doing a talk show based on the book and a movie may be in the works as well.  Hmm  - maybe I should drop everything I’m doing and get all my sexual fantasies down on paper.  

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

April 02, 2012

Lifetime Thinks 7 Days of Sex Can Save Your Marriage

  Lifetime Thinks 7 Days of Sex Can Save Your MarriagePosted on March 30, 2012

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Lifetime Thinks 7 Days of Sex Can Save Your Marriage Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanThe amount of sex on television isn’t going to be cut down anytime soon as Lifetime announced “7 Days of Sex” a show that challenges couples to report back about their nightly trysts.   It appear that Lifetime believes the only way to attract viewers is to resort to having lots of sexual content.  Another upcoming show is ‘The Client List’ which is about a real life mom-turned-prostitute.

7 Days of Sex, will highlight couples who have hit a breaking point in their relationship and are trying to save their marriage by having sex every night for one week.  According to the network, the couples will ‘attempt to make radical fixes to their troubled relationships by asking the frank question: can a diet of daily sex help them recharge their marriage? 

Each episode will feature two couples and see how their relationship progresses over the course of their given week.  If only it was that simple.

Lifetime says, “‘7 Days of Sex is a reflection of the challenges in our relationships — balancing time, family, work and trying to achieve real intimacy while being honest and true to ourselves.”

If you are interested enought to tune in, the première episode airs on April 26th.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

March 26, 2012

Mad Men Great on TV - Not In Real Life

   by Linda Franklin

 
Mad Men Era - Lets Not Go Back There Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Woman
Mad Men is back and bigger than ever.  That show illustrates how political correctness was not even a small concern for the advertising salesmen of Madison Avenue when they successfully pitched their client’s brand campaigns.

The ads from the 1960s were breathtakingly unconcerned with sexism as they appealed to men’s macho side, using images of subservient women as a way to sell everything from wrinkle-free trousers to boldly patterned neckties.

The popularity of Mad Men has kept many hooked on an era when drinks were strong, cigarettes popular…and women kept firmly in their place.

In the current political climate it’s entirely possible that women’s rights are heading back to where they were in the 60′s.  Let’s stand together so that doesn’t happen.  We have come too far and worked too hard to go backwards.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

March 23, 2012

Orgasms In The Gym! Workouts Can Be Fun

by Linda Franklin

Orgasms In The Gym! Workouts Can Be Fun Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanHere’s a great incentive to get off your ass and get to the gym.  Women are having orgasms while lifting weights or during spinning class, even if sex was the last things on their minds.

Although this was first reported in 1953, ‘little is known about exercise-induced orgasms,’ according to scientists from Indiana University.

To fill in the gap researcher Debby Herbenick and her team surveyed hundreds of women aged from 18 to 63 who said they had experienced exercise-induced orgasm or sexual pleasure at the gym.

This opens up a whole new world of possibilities for the big “O”.  How can I orgasm – let me count the ways.

Here are the exercises that are most likely to be associated with female orgasms:

Abdominal exercises: 51.4%

Weight lifting: 26.5%

Yoga:  20%

Cycling: 15.8%

Running: 13.2%

Walking/hiking: 9.6%

A fifth of those who experienced orgasms said they had no control over the experience and most of the women felt self-conscious about it.  But, it only took five weeks to recruit the 370 women who experienced the Gym Orgasm, so exercise induced orgasms aren’t really that rare.

I go to the gym twice a week, and have been for years.  I have never once experienced orgasm while exercising.  Maybe I have to try harder.  I sure would enjoy working out more if I could look forward to that added bonus.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

March 08, 2012

Cheating Spouse? – 9 Giveaway Signs

  by Linda Franklin

Cheating Spouse? - 9 Giveaway Signs Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanDid you ever have that gut feeling that’s telling you your spouse is up to no good. That maybe he has got something going on the side.  That nauseating feeling of betrayal is so horrible that you may consciously choose not to pay attention to the warning signs.  Knowing for sure can get ugly and your life could be turned upside down.  But wait a minute….

Don’t you owe it to yourself to know the truth?  Your happiness, your self-esteem, your financial future are on the line here.  It’s up to you to protect yourself.  If you don’t know the telltale signs of a cheating spouse, these nine signs provide pretty conclusive proof.

1. The sex

Your hubbie wants more sex. His libido is over stimulated, but it’s just sex – there is no emotion attached.  Of course, the other side of that coin is that he doesn’t want sex at all.

2. His Appearance

A cheating husband will make sure his hair looks right, and will start taking more interest going to the gym. (He can even use that time to have that secret rendesvous..who knows).

3. More Time Away From Home

Work obligations are demanding more of his time.  And, add to that, more out-of-town tmeetings.

4. He takes up a time-consuming hobby that doesn’t involve you

This regular hobby can include the gym (if you can call that health hobby), the library, jogging or some kind of sport. The less you are interested in it, the more chance of him taking it.

5. His cell phone has become his constant companion

A cheating husband needs to take his cell phone everywhere (Yes even to the bathroom with the door locked from the inside). This is just in case the other woman call or it’s for him to contact that other woman.

6. He eats less, or he has stomach upset

Not so smart cheater will have dinner with his secret lover and won’t have want to eat when he gets home.

7. You catch some lies – white lies, big lies..

You realize he’s been lying and getting better at covering them up. He avoids eye contact with you, and won’t participate in any discussion about infidelity. And when you push him to the edge ready to prove that he’s lying, he’ll get defensive or very angry. 

8. Emails – New email address, new passwords, no history

He is using the computer a lot. When you walk in the room he minimises all windows – or closes them altogether. When he finally gets off the computer nothing is left in the history. All temporary cookies are deleted too.

9. Obvious evidence

This can be perfume on his laundry items, lipstick on his collar or shirt, or even the fact that he wants to do his own laundry. Hair can also be evidence (Like…you see blonde hair in his car, and your hair is black)

On top of these signs of infidelity, you’ll find that a cheating husband will stare off into space a lot, talking much less and losing interest in you and the family

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

March 05, 2012

Erotic Trilogy “Fifty Shades” Storms Manhattan

  

by Linda Franklin

Erotica Trilogy - Fifty Shades A Cult Hit by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Woman“Fifty Shades,” an erotica trilogy dubbed“mommy porn” by some, is rapidly becoming a cult hit among women in New York City, who are exchanging well-worn paperback copies and excited whispers about the book’s “red room of pain” (a sex playroom).

The BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism) novel is currently sitting in 28th place on the New York Times bestseller list and is topping Amazon and Barnes & Noble charts.

It’s like “Twilight” for the grown-up set. Except, with lots of sex instead of vampires and abstinence.

Close your eyes, flip to a random page, point to a line and you’re basically guaranteed to land on a graphic, adjective-laden sex scene (often involving multiple props).

One 40-year-old mother-of-three said that Fifty Shades is ‘just a fun escape from the daily mundane of trudging kids around and, you know, marriage’

Unlike the florid descriptions found in your typical drugstore-variety bodice ripper, the details in “Fifty Shades” are reserved for the sex acts themselves. 

The piece of erotic fiction is no convenient handbag read – its 1,200 pages, an armful in itself, is laden with steamy writing that makes it far from easy to read in public places. But that doesn’t stop the female fans – they are scooping up the Kindle edition.

Happy reading everyone!  Share it with your partner and see what happens.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

February 26, 2012

Women Paying For Sex

by Linda Franklin

Women Who Hire Gigolos on the Rise  Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanA handsome, muscle-bound man who is charming, witty and keen to treat a woman like an angel whenever she is in the mood?

It may sound too good to be true. Until, that is, money is thrown into the equation.

Gigolos are on the rise in the U.S., says ABC’s Nightline, with more and more well-educated, successful and high-earning women willing to shell out thousands of dollars for dates – and sex – with the ‘perfect’ man.

Garren James, owner of Cowboys 4 Angels, has had 2,000 job applications since his agency starred in reality series, Gigolos. Models turned cowboys take home 80 per cent of their hourly rate which starts at $300.00.

With services paid for up front and under the strict guise of simply charging for time, rather than sex, the practice is 100 per cent legal – straight male escorts bill for their hours and nothing more. If that leads to sex with a female client, so be it.  

One woman uses this pleasurable service as incentive to lose wight – and books a Cowboy every time she sheds five pounds. It’s working. She says that since she started heading on dates with the former models, she has gone from a size 28 to an 18.

For her, though, the icing on the cake is that she is in control, and free to do as she pleases. ‘I know they aren’t going to call. I don’t want them to call,’ she told Nightline.

Cowboys 4 Angels is now in Texas, New York, California, Georgia and Nevada.

Today many women are too busy for a boyfriend and they prefer the ‘sure thing’.  This fits the bill for their needs.

While the gigolos are not required to take STD tests as they are officially not being paid for sex, but say they practice safe sex.

So, I toss this out to you.  Do you think it’s wrong for a woman to engage the services of a gigolo?  It sure flies in the face of conventional thinking.  I say it’s okay as long as you don’t get emotionally attached – and that’s a big if. Remember, Richard Gere got hooked on his paid-for escort in Pretty Woman?

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

February 21, 2012

Sexy Body - Does Mine Still Qualify?

by Linda Franklin

 

One of the crazy excuses that stops a woman from enjoying sex is believing her body isn't sexy anymore.

Doesn't it make sense that if you're more concerned about how you look than enjoying the pleasures of the flesh - you're not going to enjoy it?  

It's impossible to enjoy sex If you're not present in the moment.  If you're busy doing a body check, instead of focusing on the kiss or the touch, you are shortchanging yourself and your partner.

It's hard to convince a woman that a man sees her body differently than she does. They're not nearly as concerned with the flaws as you are.  What turns on a man is your passion, your imagination, your enjoyment.  He doesn't care about that extra weight you might have put on or that your breasts aren't quite as firm as they used to be.

Sex is one of the greatest pleasure in life, so why would you choose to give it up because you imagine your body isn't sexy.  Just relax. Relish in the pleasure that your body can provide and stop worrying how your butt looks from every possible angle.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

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