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April 25, 2012

Is He The One? 8 Ways To Know

Is He The One? 8 Ways To Know Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Womanby Linda Franklin

Women often wonder if they are making the right choice – especially when it comes to their man.  Yes, at the beginning everything is glorious, but when you take off the rose-colored glasses you may not be so sure.  Your dream man too often can morph into your worst nightmare.

Here’s eight ways that can help you to decide if you are heading down the right road with the right guy.

1. Comfortability – You may have just met him but feel you have known him for years. 

2. Meeting of the minds – Your goals, morals and ethics are pretty much rooted in the same beliefs.

3 Mutual respect and admiration- You encourage each other to be the best you can be - not compete for who’s the alpha dog..

4.  Acceptance – You accept each other for who you are - warts and all. If he is constantly criticizing you or correcting you  – run for the hills!!

5.  Forgiveness Without Resentment – It’s easy to say you forgive your man but be very sure you are not building up a wall of resentment when you do.

6. Sexual Combatability – You can’t fake it – either it’s there or it isn’t. Don’t shortchange yourself.

7. Strength of Character -  You deserve a stand-up guy.  Someone who doesn’t just talk the talk but has demonstrated that he will be there for you in good times and bad.  

8. Financially Responsible - You want a guy who earns and spends his money wisely.  Of course, you have to be on that same responsibility track yourself.  You know how dicey money problems can get. 

Relationships are tough.  Be open and honest right from the start and you will definetely have a leg up on happiness.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

April 20, 2012

Woman’s Erotic Fantasies – A Runaway Best Seller

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Woman's Erotic Fantasies - A Runaway Best Seller by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Womanby Linda Franklin

Who knew that the woman who just wrote this year’s most popular erotic novel to be the shy type and yet writer E.L. James is modesty to the core.

Despite the explicit content of her bestselling book, Fifty Shades of Grey, the author is still reeling at the unprecedented success and still doubles up in embarrassed laughter talking about it.

During an interview in Paris, the cheerful but self-deprecating British author admitted that she finds it ‘excruciating’ to discuss the fine points of the novel and called the work her own personal ‘mid-life crisis.’ 

Talking to TODAY, the former television producer and suburban mother who wrote the Fifty Shades trilogy in two years, said she had no idea why it had sparked such a phenomenon as, as far as she can see, there is nothing revolutionary about it. 
 
Asked whether she knew it would be such a hit, Ms James laughed: ‘No, not at all. I was amazed. I am stunned by its popularity.’ But she admitted the process was all-consuming as over the course of two years she did nothing but write, composing notes on her phone when she was out and ‘beaming’ them onto her Mac when she got home.

Joking about her unorthodox work method she smiled cheekily when asked if wine helped the flow of raunchy ideas, and said: ‘I always need a couple of glasses of wine’.

The lurid tale of sexual submission has been a sensation among women everywhere. While women have admitted to squirming in their seat on reading the lurid tale of Anastasia Steele and her sadomasochistic millionaire boyfriend Christian Grey, Ms James is not so forthcoming with her feelings on the subject matter.

Though she does admit the book is her ‘midlife crisis in Technicolor. All my fantasies are out there. When it came to talking about real life however, the author opened up about what she feels women really want.

‘I think in real life you want someone very, very different. You want someone who does the dishes,’ she said before adding that the reason her hero is rich and domineering is because ‘that’s really attractive on paper.’

The book that sold a staggering two million copies in one month realizes the secret fantasy of the submissive sexual encounter, a longing that many women may indeed harbor.

Ms James agreed: ‘Once you’re in charge of your job, your house, your children, getting food on the table, doing all of this all of the time, it would be nice for someone else to just be in charge for a little while.

Now Lifetime is doing a talk show based on the book and a movie may be in the works as well.  Hmm  - maybe I should drop everything I’m doing and get all my sexual fantasies down on paper.  

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

April 16, 2012

Perfection Causes Pain Especially In Relationships

by Suzanne Phillips, Psy.D 

If you are looking for the perfect partner or trying to be one – think twice. Perfection is painfully unrealistic for individuals and emotionally costly for couples.. While there is no doubt that striving to be your personal best and feeling good about your efforts is healthy as well as relationship enhancing – perfectionism is something else.

Perfectionism is the belief that a state of completeness and flawlessness can and should be attained. The literature on perfectionism underscores that there is an important difference between adaptive and maladaptive perfectionism. It is a difference worth considering.

Adaptive Perfectionism involves striving for high standards as motivational and encouraging but there is choice in the pursuit.

Maladaptive perfectionism is different. Those with maladaptive perfectionism don’t really have a choice to strive or excel. They have a pervasive need to achieve an unrealistic standard of perfection as a proof of self-worth. This is the woman who can’t invite friends for dinner because she demands that she cook complicated gourmet recipes and fears failure. This is the partner who avoids sexuality because she is not yet the perfect weight. This is the man who can never enjoy a family vacation because nothing is ever perfect. Frequently those with maladaptive perfectionism have unrealistic expectations of the significant others in their lives. If their partner is not the most successful, the center of the party, the most desirable, the most intelligent etc., their fragile self-worth is compromised.

Just reading the definitions  may be an important first step in identification of a pattern. 

Couple relationships can replay or replace early attachment patterns and they can exacerbate the maladaptive need to be perfect with critique, competitive demands and unrealistic expectations. Recognizing the things that are interfering with your happiness – and agreeing to work together – may reduce blame and double your chances of success.

You can build a secure attachment as you work together using some techniques for reducing perfectionism. Lower anxiety by recognizing that addressing perfectionism does not equate to accepting mediocrity – it equates to striving without suffering. Agree to risk trying just a few new things. Agree to risk making mistakes together. 

The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

 

April 13, 2012

Sixty Really Isn’t The New Forty

on April 10, 2012

by Linda Franklin

Sixty Really Isn't The New 40 by Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanDo you ever catch a glimpse of yourself as you walk by a store window?  For a split second you wonder who is that woman?  Then reality hits.  It’s you.

As I age,  I find the disparity between how I feel on the inside and how I look on the outside grows ever greater. Some days I feel 20; others 35; on a bad day, perhaps 45 But more than that? Never. 

It’s scary heading for senior status in a society that places so much premium on being young.  Women over 60 complain they become invisible, ble — unless, of course, they happen to be Meryl Streep, Jane Fonda or Helen Mirren.

In a room full of women you can have a great debate on the right way and the wrong way to handle aging. How do you live life as a 60-something to the fullest, without behaving like a fool.  Should women succumb to aging gracefully or is disgracefully the way to go?  

Unlike for our mothers’ generation, there’s no road map for being a woman of 60-plus today. It strikes me there’s a good, a bad and an ugly to this state of affairs. On the upside, far from slowing down, for many women fun and freedom beckon in their seventh decade

Fashion may, for the most part, be aimed at the young, but there’s plenty of grown-up glamor to be found in upmarket labels. There’s no excuse for being a fashion frump, whatever your age.

The majority of women I know approaching 60 continue to work.  Many of them because they are the sole source of income, others because they love what they do.  But, then there are the women who spend their days shopping and doing the granny shift.  

It’s interesting that the divorce rate of folks 60-plus has increased.  The idea that divorce and starting over is the cure for the disease of old age is becoming increasingly common currency. While increasing numbers of 50 and 60-somethings are busy playing sex gods and sirens on the internet, many are discovering that finding a mate late in life is no easy task.

When friends’ marriages end in their 50s, the women discovered the joys of sex and dating anew. But now they’re in their 60s, they are facing up to the fact that they may have to spend the rest of their lives alone.

They’re getting on with life as best they can, but it’s not a prospect they relish. Some of those who were abandoned by their spouses are bitter; some who did the dumping are beginning to regret it; others who found Mr. Right are thanking their lucky stars.

Beauty has always been treated as a virtue, and with cosmetic surgery promising faces and bodies that deny the years, it’s easy to understand why women are increasingly desperate to turn back the clock.

There’s no refuting that women feel empowered when they view their surgically improved selves in the mirror — but 60 is 60, no matter what the smoke and mirrors

To say I’m glad I’m not young any more would be a lie. But I’m not sad either. I remember the Swinging Sixties as if they were yesterday.

Bottom line –  as you approach the big 6-0 there is a hell of a lot of living to do.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

April 09, 2012

Embracing Who and Where You Are Today

on April 5, 2012

 

If you are a woman who has worked hard to achieve success, you probably will become deeply frustrated when you discover you can no longer satisfy your desires as quickly as you might like. It feels like you are stuck and don’t appreciate that these delays may be laying the foundation for future accomplishments that you have not yet conceived. Or the universe may have plans for you that differ from the worldly aspirations you have pursued up until this point.

Clearly, our self-created timetable and the timetable the universe has set up for us are on two different tracks. However, every person fulfills their purpose when the time is right.

When delays in our progress kindle pangs of disappointment or the pace of life seems overwhelming, peace can be found in the simple fact that we are exactly where we need to be at this moment.

Allow yourself to embrace a postponement of progress as an auspicious opportunity to prepare for what is yet to come. If, however, you feel as though the universe is pushing you forward at too fast a clip, you may be unwittingly resisting your destiny.

Your unease regarding the speed of your progress could be a sign that you need to cultivate awareness within yourself and learn to move with the flow of fate rather than against it. The universe puts nothing in your path that you are incapable of handling, so you can rest assured that you are ready to grow into your new situation.

You may feel compelled to judge your personal success using your age, your professional position, your level of education, or the accomplishments of your peers as a yardstick. Yet we all enjoy the major milestones in our lives at the appropriate time; some realize their dreams as youngsters while others flourish only in old age. If you take pride in your many accomplishments and make the most of every circumstance in which you find yourself, your time will come.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

April 05, 2012

Sagging Arms Not Meant For Sleeveless Dresses

By Linda Franklin

Summer is fast approaching and many of us are wondering how to stay cool in dresses or tops without revealing too much arm.  I know we should love every part of our bodies, but sometimes that’s really hard to do, especially when you’re out shopping for new summer duds. It seems everything that I like is sleeveless and that just doesn’t work as well anymore.

So now  I am on the hunt for alternatives. Clothes that has a little sleeve, but not too little or with cutouts on the shoulder.  I really like that look – it works for women of all ages.

Here’s what I came up with as I searched online.  I am so relieved there are great choices for us.  Now I can’t wait to go shopping.

 

 

 

 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

April 02, 2012

Lifetime Thinks 7 Days of Sex Can Save Your Marriage

  Lifetime Thinks 7 Days of Sex Can Save Your MarriagePosted on March 30, 2012

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Lifetime Thinks 7 Days of Sex Can Save Your Marriage Linda Franklin The Real Cougar WomanThe amount of sex on television isn’t going to be cut down anytime soon as Lifetime announced “7 Days of Sex” a show that challenges couples to report back about their nightly trysts.   It appear that Lifetime believes the only way to attract viewers is to resort to having lots of sexual content.  Another upcoming show is ‘The Client List’ which is about a real life mom-turned-prostitute.

7 Days of Sex, will highlight couples who have hit a breaking point in their relationship and are trying to save their marriage by having sex every night for one week.  According to the network, the couples will ‘attempt to make radical fixes to their troubled relationships by asking the frank question: can a diet of daily sex help them recharge their marriage? 

Each episode will feature two couples and see how their relationship progresses over the course of their given week.  If only it was that simple.

Lifetime says, “‘7 Days of Sex is a reflection of the challenges in our relationships — balancing time, family, work and trying to achieve real intimacy while being honest and true to ourselves.”

If you are interested enought to tune in, the première episode airs on April 26th.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

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