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13 posts from October 2011

October 27, 2011

Drinking and Smoking Add Years To Your Face

By Linda Franklin - The Real Cougar Woman 

Blotchy wrinkled face.Despite all the warnings on how your lifestyle might one day show on your face, women continue to smoke, drink and consume too much sugar.  I suppose when you are out having a good time you never think that someday you will have to pay the piper. After all, there is always make-up, and Botox to help you look younger.

Thank goodness that lots of women have given up smoking, but when it comes to that extra glass of cabarnet - not so many.

I'll bet if the women who abuse their bodies had a magic mirror that showed them what they will look like in 10 years, it might scare them in adopting better health habits.

Just imagine your face 10 years from now.  It's bloated, blotched with broken capillaries, lots of deep set wrinkles and sags.  Now, on top of that, your teeth are yellow and stained and you have a neck that resembles a turkey.  No, it's not pretty, but sometimes you need to imagine the worst to scare you straight.

Now, consider how much it's going to cost you to reverse all of this damage. Broken capillaries on the cheeks would require thousands of dollars in laser treatments, then add to that teeth whitening, a little liposuction, and cosmetic surgery.  Before you know all of this is costing you barrels of money. 

Here's how to make sure this imagined scenario doesn’t become your future reality.  STOP smoking, CUT DOWN on your alcohol and sugar consumption, DRINK lots of water, EAT lots of green vegetables, Exercise and SLAP ON a good moisturizer every day. 

The average women starts to worry about losing her looks at the age of 28.  How are you going to start helping the aging process today?

October 24, 2011

Number One Reason People Get Divorced

By Linda Franklin - The Real Cougar Woman

DivorceFalling out of love is the new number one reason couples are divorcing according to Your Tango. After doing a survey of divorced or divorcing couples, infidelity has now been bumped down to number two.  Cheating had been number one for the eight years.

Essentially, the survey has found that couples are more willing to work through a partner's sexual indiscretions than they are through a dry, loveless relationship. And who can blame them?

In the old days, there weren't any options and women didn't have their own incomes. Things have changed with the two income household among other things. I've always questioned whether or not women's resolve to stay in a sexually decrepit marriage was due to the the idealistic reasons they posed. Men, on the other hand, have gone to mistresses and sex workers to satisfy their needs, seeing that as their right-- their entitlement. The show Mad Men on AMC does a great job displaying this.

Today more couple are rethinking sex's role in a relationship. They're spending more time getting better at it and the other things that make it great and communication smooth.  They're taking sex more seriously. . When they do, it makes them wake up one day and say things like, "I'm falling in low with my husband/wife all over again".

Sustainable great sex, is a major untapped resource to refuel the state of being in love.


The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

October 21, 2011

Women's Attraction To Other Women

by Linda Franklin - The Real Cougar Woman

Two women kissingOk, hold onto your hats ladies, apparently as we get older, we become naturally bi-curious when it comes to sex.  I have to admit I never heard of the term bi-curious, but have always thought if all the taboos would disappear we are all bi-sexual by nature.  Some women I have talked to agree with that, others are not so sure. 

A study carried out by Boise State University found that out of a group of 484 heterosexual women, 60 per cent were sexually attracted to other women; 45 per cent had kissed a woman and 50 per cent had fantasies about the same sex. 


Elizabeth Morgan, a professor of psychology at the Idaho-based university, whose studies are focused on same-sex attractions among heterosexuals, said her findings revealed that straight women often feel more than a friendly affection for other women.

Other data suggests upwards of 20 per cent of women are attracted to other women. It's claimed this could be linked to the natural affection women show towards one another when they socialize, from chatting on the phone for hours to snuggling during chick flicks.

It is said often that women's friendships are barely distinguishable from romantic relationships. 'Women are encouraged to be emotionally close to each other,' said Prof. Morgan.

'That provides an opportunity for intimacy and romantic feelings to develop.'


Contributing to the findings, Lisa Diamond, Ph.D. a psychologist at the University of Utah, followed a group of women attracted to other women over a 15 year period.   

Her data shows for the first time how sexuality develops over a lifetime. At each of the half dozen follow-up interviews, she asked each woman to label herself as lesbian, bisexual, heterosexual or unlabelled and share details about her love life.

The findings startled even her. Over time, each woman's chosen labels changed repeatedly, with one noteworthy trend.

Ms Diamond said the older they got, the more likely they were to choose 'unlabelled' which meant the older they got, the more they felt their sexuality didn't fit into tidy boxes.

She said: 'We have this idea that sexuality gets clearer and more defined as time goes on. 'We consider that a sign of maturity to figure out who you are. I've seen it's really the opposite.'

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

October 20, 2011

Aging Has It's Rough Moments

By Linda Franklin - The Real Cougar Woman

Woman-looking-in-mirrorIs it true that once we hit 45 looking in the mirror becomes painful? I guess most of us would agree that it's hard to come to terms with getting older and our faces only confirm what we feel inside.

In a survey of 3,000 people done in Briton, they found just a handful of middle-aged people checked their reflection more than once a day. I find that hard to believe don't you?  Even though I may not always like what I see looking back at me, I am compelled to check myself out when I pass by a mirror.  For me that likely to be more than 10 times a day.

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October 19, 2011

Cooking Naked and Other Good Things

By Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Woman

Rosie batisttaI first met Rosie when she handed me her business card that said, I COOK NAKED. Join me.   I told her I don't cook, but nevertheless, I was intrigued.

Rosie Battista is the founder of Sleeping Naked After 40.  She refers to herself as a  Healthy Body "Builder", Trainer & Food Maven.  On her 50th birthday she posed in a teeny-weeny bikini on stage with women half her age (including her daughter) in her first figure body building competition.

Her passion is to help women develop the sexiest version of themselves by losing weight. She says, "that journey starts with cooking naked".  Well, not literally naked, she means using food in its most natural “naked” state.  "Naked" food doesn't come with a box or a label.

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October 17, 2011

Willpower, Sugar Levels and Life's Frustrations

By Linda Franklin The Real Cougar Woman

ChocolateAsk people to name their greatest strengths and they’ll often credit themselves with honesty, kindness, humor, creativity and even modesty — but not self-control,’ write Roy F. Baumeister and John Tierney in their book Willpower: Rediscovering The Greatest Human Strength.

Conversely, when people were asked about their failings, a lack of self-control was top of the list.’

It's true isn't it.  We live in a world filled with temptations and distractions. It’s too easy to say: ‘Oh I’ll finish this work later, after I’ve checked Facebook, looked at Twitter and had a search of the internet.’ 

So what can be done — is it possible to learn willpower? Baumeister and Tierney say yes. 

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October 13, 2011

Soul Mate Search Hinders True Love

by Linda Franklin - The Real Cougar Woman

AngelMan-713439According to the myth, soul mates not only have a deep connection, but love and accept everything about each other. Being soul mates with someone implies you have similar tastes and interests, and love doing everything together.

Last year I wrote a blog Soul Mates Are Not Who You Think They Are.  I don't believe in soul mates and I never have.  

Single women worry there is something wrong with them because they can’t find their soul mate, and married women question whether one nasty argument means her husband isn’t her soul mate after all. But what does the term really mean?

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October 10, 2011

Nanoblur - Look 10 Years Younger In 40 Seconds

by Linda Franklin - The Real Cougar Woman

Three weeks ago I wrote a blog about Organic Rain Forest Honey. When you use this miracle honey as a facial mask every day it is supposed to erase wrinkles and firm your skin.  I have been using it for two weeks now and I do see a slight improvement. 

But now here's the end-all-be-all in instant gratification.  How about looking 10 years younger in 40 seconds?

Nanoblur-results-column For all the hype about make-up and skincare, what women actually want from a cosmetic product is very simple. We want it to make us look better than we normally look. Preferably right away, please! 

We're not totally nuts.  We don't expect to use a product and be magically transformed into Penelope Cruz or Jennifer Aniston.  We just want to cover up our wrinkles, minimize uneven pigmentation and generally wipe away a few years. In other words, instant air-brushing.

The latest wonder-working wrinkle-buster claims to do all that and more -  turning the clock back several years in 40 seconds flat.  

What is this miracle cure?  It's called Nanoblur and the makers claim you will look younger in 40 seconds. 

We’ve all become so immune to the extravagant claims of beauty brands that our reaction to them tends to be short and pithy. But Nanoblur is confounding sceptics around the globe, topping the sales charts in 22 countries.

Indeed Labs, the maker of Nanoblur has taken the technology behind this idea to a new level of sophistication.

They say, "Our particle sizes are hundreds of times smaller than older formulas.  That means they can find their way into the smallest imperfections and use tricks of light to iron them out."

These particles are on the nano-scale — at 700 nanometres — but too big to slip into the skin (only particles less than 400nm in diameter can do that), so they stay on the outside of the skin, to reflect light.


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October 07, 2011

Women More Adventurous In Bed

by Linda Franklin

Talking_dirty Talking dirty and being sexually adventurous seems to come more naturally to women than men.

In a new survey, it turns out women are not only more experimental in bed, but were far more likely to talk dirty and share fantasies with their partners than men.

While most respondents - all of whom were in relationships - said that they enjoyed sex with the lights on, wearing sexy lingerie, having sex in different areas of the home and using lubricants, more women than men were willing to go further in the bedroom.

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October 06, 2011

Enzymes Keep Us Young

By Linda Franklin

Women are always having problems with their bellies.  Bloating, cramps, constipation - an overall uncomfortable feeling. One of the things that might be causing that discomfort is the body's lack of enzymes.EnzymesEnzymes play a big role in our digestion which translates to feeling good and aging well. If we can keep our digestive system functioning like a young woman, we can maintain youthful health and appearance for a long time.

So what are enzymes?  They are delicate lifelike substances found in all living cells. Enzymes are biologically active proteins necessary for all living organisms. Metabolic enzymes regulate every biochemical reaction that occurs within our body.

Here's what you need to know.

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