Bad Sex - Is It A Deal Breaker?

by Linda Franklin - The Real Cougar Woman

 

You met this great guy. You have been have dated five or six times and are thinking this could be the start of something big.  But, then your marvelous fantasy is abruptly derailed.  The spark you thought was there fizzled in the bedroom.  So what do you do - send him packing?

Yes, bad sex can be a totally legit reason to break up. The idea that the quality of sex within an otherwise good relationship is "trivial" was invented by people who are not having good sex.  Do you really want to listen to them?  I don't think so.

That said, bad-to-mediocre sex of course can be counterbalanced by other factors in certain circumstances.  Here are a few questions I want you to ask yourself before deciding whether or not to kick this guy to the curb. 

1. How important is a robust sex life to you? Do you feel shut off when you're not having good sex?

2. Have you been in other relationships of this duration or longer in which you have had better sex? Maybe not. and now you are simply rewriting history.

3. Does this particular guy have lots of the other great qualities you are looking for?  If he does, then openly discuss the sex issue with him.  See if he is willing to work with you on creating the sizzle.  

Sex is more important to some women that it is to others.  Many prefer Facebook to a romp in the hay. If it's a high priority in your life then definetely look for someone who shares the same passion that you do. 

 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality.  Linda Franklin says,"there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible". Linda's book, Don't Ever Call Me Ma'am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.