Cougar Woman Torn About Her Relationship

I received this email from a reader and I wanted to share it with you.

Dear Linda,

I am 37 years old, separated with two kids, working on my PhD. I have been involved in a relationship with a guy who is 11 years younger than me and feeling totally excited but also absolutely scared.

I just found your website today and the first thing that came to my mind was "OMG, I am not alone!!!". Thank you for that.

However, my situation is a lot more complicated than a "normal" cougar.

We met in my home city where he has been working but I actually live in his city (two different countries). We have had great time together both in my city and his. We decided to give it a chance but it is so hard with this long-distance relationship. I will see him in four weeks and we will be together for two months before I have to come back to my family. Right now we are just planning our adventure month by month.

I desperately need advice and hear experiences from other cougars. What would be the best way to do this?

Thank you,

Dear H,

No, you are definitely not alone, there are many successful cougar relationships. And, congratulations on working on your PhD - that's a huge accomplishment.

Long distance romances are very difficult, but not impossible. My husband and I started out as a long distance romance, also two countries - Canada and the U.S. My suggestion is to play it loose. In the two months you spend together you will learn a lot about each other. Just be yourself and be honest about what you want. Let him see who you are, but at the same time, be careful about revealing your financial situation. You don't do that until you're sure about who he is and his intentions.

You could join our Real Cougar Woman Club and put your questions on our forum. We have over 2,000 members in the club and they love to help other Real Cougars. http://www.therealcougarwomanclub.com.

Linda