Men Are Not Created Equal When It Comes To Sex

A study by researchers at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction find that men report a variety of different experiences involving sexual desire and arousal.

The men we asked to express their feelings (that in itself is a breakthrough) about the relationship between erections and desire, the importance of scent and the intelligence of the woman.

"We have a lot of assumptions about how men think, feel and behave sexually," said Erick Janssen, associate scientist at the Kinsey Institute. So we had them talk about their real life experiences.

The focus groups involved 50 men divided into three groups based on their age (18-24 years, 25-45 years and 46 and older). Here are some examples of the different experiences reported by the men:

• Depression or a risk of being caught having sex, were reported by some men as inhibiting sex, while other men found that it enhanced their desire and arousal.
• An erection is not the main cue for men to know they are sexually aroused. Most of the men responded that they can experience erections without feeling aroused or interested, leading researchers to suggest that erections are not good criteria for determining sexual arousal in men.
• Many men found it difficult to distinguish between sexual desire and sexual arousal, a distinction prominent in most sexual response models used by researchers and clinicians.
• The sexual history of women also mattered to the men -- but differently for different age groups. Sexually experienced women were considered more threatening by younger men, who had concerns about "measuring up," but such women were considered more arousing for older men.

Men, it turns out, are just as complex as women - no two can be compared.  I don't know why sex has to be so complicated but it usually turns out that way,  Perhaps a little more understanding from both sexes might create more fun in the bedroom.